The Art of Relaxing
Are you able to Relax?
For many, it’s not so easy.
How many times you were just chilling and feeling you were being lazy and unproductive?
How many times have you felt you were meant to do something productive instead?
If your household was anything like mine, you might have heard comments like
‘Go do something useful’
‘Don’t you have anything else to do?’
‘Don’t you feel like you’re wasting your time?’
We are deeply conditioned to think that we always have to do, and we often identify with our busyness.
Ask yourself: Who are you once you stop doing?
For some of us, it can be a tricky question.
The act of ‘not doing’ can bring shame and unsettling feelings.
We have to learn that relaxation is safe. Stillness is part of productivity. Honouring our own pace is crucial.
Most of us spend our life in tunnel vision, just looking for the following item to tick out of our to-do list.
‘Stresslaxing’, as defined by the Urban Dictionary, kind of becomes our default state 🙃
When programmed in a stresslaxed mode, relaxing becomes an upstream effort.
We need to intentionally make space for that.
We have to learn that relaxation is safe. Stillness is part of productivity. Honouring our own pace is crucial.
If you catch yourself unable to relax, do this:
You can go through these queues every time you get caught up in stress.
It might require a few rounds and a lot of self-love to internalise this ❤️
Let me know if you have any questions or if I can help in any way.
Thank you for reading until here.
Much love,
Maria
